Just Sharing

Did you ever get exactly what you needed at the exact time you needed it?

Well I am a very fortunate girl. My friend Carmela came to visit this weekend. I feel so much better. There is nothing better than a Sunday with Carmela.
I first met Carm in college my Freshman year. I was at Mac's and she said something rather provocative to my male companion. I asked "Are you hitting on my boyfriend?" and she replied "Yeah what are you going to do about it?" That was it...I soon moved into her room and we have been friends ever since.
It is understood that she is "The Queen" and that I will certainly be put in my place at any point in time she deems necessary. Don't get me wrong, she doesn't always win. It is also understood that I have the option to listen or not to listen. Most of the time I listen to her. I used to purposely do things to set her off and then laugh. Sometimes, she didn't think it was so funny.
She has an amazing ability to give you advice without seeming negative. She will always tell you the truth, whether you want to hear it or not. She will never talk behind your back about anything she wouldn't say to your face. I have never heard her say, "I shouldn't tell you this but I will" or "promise not to tell anyone?" Her words are never delivered in a mean way (well not to me). Sure in the past 17 years we have had our share of "moments" but seldom heated to any degree of anger. Mostly irritation, simply due to the amount of time spent together, sometimes disappointment.
It is one of the most carefree relationships of my life thus far. She loves my friends and she is so great at meeting new people. We do not see each other all the time, but when we do it is like family. I am horrible about answering my phone, she is horrible about returning phone calls. She knows that she has to keep calling or leave a message and then I will call her back. I usually spend most of my time talking to her answering machine, we have developed a very good rapport. It is all good, we just know that is how we both operate. No one gets uptight or upset if we haven't communicated in a while. We are not mushy but she knows I love her and I know the same. Most of our friendship is based on this unspoken and never broken true bond. Nothing really has ever changed between us.
This weekend we spent most of our time hanging out with everyone else. It doesn't really matter. Her presence alone is enough for me to feel good.
I get sad everytime she leaves or I leave her house. It is always worse if Cassidy is involved, who wants to leave that little girl. This weekend it was just Carm that came to visit. Through the past 17 years we have been through a lot of good times and also sad times for both of us. She is such an amazing part of my life. I admire her, I love her, and I need her. She was all I needed to get by this weekend.